I have always ponder over the question of gender equality, since forever. Pre-civilisation has always agreed on the notion that men are superior to women; in terms of strength and energy. Men has always been the leader. Even in Islam, there is the famous saying of "Lelaki ada 9 akal, 1 nafsu manakala wanita ada 1 akal, 9 nafsu." Ye lah, aku nak tolak kereta yang double park hari-hari depan laundry pun kadang-kadang mintak tolong abang-abang or pakcik-pakcik yang bersidai kat CC sebelah laundry. Kadang-kadang tau, bukan tiap-tiap hari hehe. Kuasa menjatuhkan talak pula terletak di tangan suami (lelaki, duh) bukan di tangan isteri. This reflects the mental and emotional strength of men as compared to women.
Aku bukanlah nak cerita pasal apa kelebihan lelaki apa kelebihan perempuan. But simply to argue on a very annoying yet intriguing thought that has been lingering on my mind since ever. Why is it, when women do something that has been the men's tradition, diorang akan diangkat macam oh my super cool gila hebat gila boleh buat kerja lelaki? Whereas when men do something that has been the women's tradition, diorang akan dipanggil pondan la, lembut la, macam degraded pun ada kalau jadi perempuan ni.
Contohnya:
1. Kalau perempuan jadi ahli bomba/main bola ke, people would say "How brave of her to venture into men's world." or something to that effect lah.
2. Kalau lelaki jadi nurse/ main bola jaring( yes i am serious ada netball for men), people would say "Apehal ntah nak buat kerja-kerja pompuan ni?" "Bapak lembut ah wey jadi nurse." or something to that effect jugak. Walaupun kerja tu kerja yang mulia macam kerja jadi nurse.
Get my point?
Why do we have to have such stigma? Sama la macam kalau putus tunang ke cerai ke, mesti janda tu yang jadi target, jadi bahan umpatan. Sedangkan laki dia yang abuse, yang cari pompuan lain kat luar. Macam argument the Obedient Wives Club yang aku sangat tak setuju, "Husbands stray because wives do not satisfy them in bed." Bodoh ke ape? Kalau tak satisfy tak boleh bincang? Lepas tu nak salahkan perempuan semata. Or kalau dah habis hebat pun isteri dia kat ranjang, dia still 'makan luar', pun salah perempuan jugak? So lelaki boleh la guna excuse dia ada 1 je nafsu. Camtu? Haa kan dah emo.
I wish that I don't have to fight in this world to be as equal to men. Semua kita buat dalam dunia ni, semua nak buktikan yang orang perempuan setanding orang lelaki. Tak kisah lah pasal ni pun. Even my writing from the beginning pun dah berbaur gender equality hahahaha. Kesimpulannya, nak buat macamana, inilah salah satu fitrah manusia la kot. Huhu.
Notakaki: Perempuan dan lelaki memang sama memerlukan. That fact I don't deny.
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